Focus

4.18.25

I’m going to sit on my soapbox for a few minutes. When I started my recovery, I only went to co-ed meetings because I was intimidated by women. I was terrified of walking into a room full of judgmental bitches and expected high school mean girl mentality. When I finally found the courage to go to a women’s meeting, I quickly realized this was far from the truth. Fast forward 161 days, I went to a co-ed meeting last night with my roommate and could not believe the drama. Towards the end of the meeting, you could cut the tension with a knife, and the situation could have easily been resolved with a private conversation after the meeting between the parties involved. I’m starting to think that consciously or unconsciously, human nature is to try to impress the opposite sex.

We come to these rooms to focus on maintaining our sobriety and supporting each other. We have but one primary purpose: to carry our message to the alcoholic who still suffers. We want to leave a meeting feeling rejuvenated, hopeful, and optimistic.

I’m not saying the meeting last night was horrible or I didn’t have any good takeaways from it. I’m not saying that I won’t attend co-ed meetings anymore either. My favorite weekly meeting is my co-ed alumni meeting with my family there. All I’m saying is that I have a new appreciation for the women’s meetings I attend full of strong, independent, supporting, loving, bad ass women.