Glimmers

09.07.25

I’m learning more and more that boundaries look different depending on the relationship, but they always come down to self-respect. This morning was a good example. I had plans to meet a friend, and something told me to text and confirm before I got ready. No response. I hesitated but still got ready, did my hair and makeup, and sent another message—still nothing. I felt a sting of disappointment, but decided I wasn’t going to let it ruin my day. Instead, I went to the women’s meeting.

It was the first time, and probably only time, I’ve shown up to a Sunday 10 a.m. meeting with a full face of makeup, but it ended up being an amazing experience. We had a visitor share something that seemed to touch all of us, and some friends who don’t normally attend were there too. I left feeling surrounded by inspiration, motivation, energy, and pure love. What could have been a wasted morning turned into a blessing. Or as the chair would call it, a glimmer.

I still haven’t heard from my friend, and I’m feeling confused and hurt. Why reach out, make plans, and then ghost me? I remind myself that I don’t know what they’re going through, and maybe it has nothing to do with me. But at the same time, I need to honor my own feelings. Allowing myself to acknowledge the hurt without wallowing in it was a boundary in action.

Going forward, I need to find a healthier balance: holding compassion for others without making excuses for behavior that repeatedly leaves me feeling unimportant. I deserve relationships where effort is mutual, communication is clear, and love is shown in action. And today, I also learned that disappointment can sometimes be a doorway into something even better.